Tikkun is the Hebrew word for .... hmmmm... to fix... In Kabbalah...it means to correct....
The situation.. the parents ... the family... we are born into... is tikkun... for you are put in this family to learn... to learn the lessons you need in life from your parents... and vice versa ... our parents learn from their children... The idea that we enter into our families with a specific purpose is fascinating to me... We have adages that say something like well... "we can't choose our families but we can choose our friends"... This always appeared to me to be saying well... "whatever"... about our family and ... I will "fix - it" through my friendship choices...
But... what if I were to take this idea of tikkun to heart... what would it mean if instead of fixing my life without my family.. I adhered to the idea that I am supposed to learn from my parents and family... that I can't "fix" things unless I learn the lessons I was supposed to learn from the very beginning... It's a pretty common idea... It's like "building blocks"...that is what our families are..... the building blocks of our lives...
What if...
As my children grow into adulthood... I have felt that I straddle the worlds of being a parent and being an adult child of my parents... but what if I take that understanding and apply it to my fears... or to the issue that seems to be a constant to me...
Lost Connections...
I think... wow... I certainly have a lot of "lost connections"... but what if I apply the concept of Tikkun to it... I could start with the "connections" of my family.... and instead of saying ... Holy Shit... They are crazy!... Maybe it's time to recognize the lessons I have to learn... the lessons I can offer... and... the lessons they offer to me...
It would be as if I were embracing my fear... It would provide me the opportunity to learn... and maybe "move on"...
and maybe...
"Be Connected"...
